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Interview with Tiffiny, My Story :
Tiffiny, How long have you been doing what you do, and how did you become a Clarity, Confidence, Courage Expert?

To answer this question, it’s probably best that I share with you the amount of time I have been coaching, a defining moment, and a resulting “compelling story”, that brought me to where I am today – coaching people like you on exactly what to do to have absolute clarity on what they want in life, have a plan to step into their power, take action on fulfilling their life purpose and have the courage to stand in their authentic truth. I have been professionally coaching women for the last 3 years and it all started because of that defining moment that happened to me in 2015.

A few years prior, I was 40 pounds overweight; in a well-paying, a high-stress corporate career that required me to travel - a lot; and in a deeply emotionally draining, toxic marriage. The weight gain was a result of all the anxiety and sadness that I was experiencing. It got so bad, I started to feel disgusted and disappointed with myself. Having years of experience in the mental health and public health field, I knew I was slipping into a very dark place.

I told myself, “NO!” I would not give up and fall into the depths of depression without a fight!

 

So, I decided I would take control of the only thing I felt like I had power over – my weight. Day by day, I started walking to the local park - my walk turned into a jog, then full-on running and eventually I joined a women’s running group and finished several 5 and 10k races. The support and accountability of the other women in my running group made me feel so good and helped me see that I could push myself to change.

I slowly started to lose a little weight and started researching nutrition and how to create a healthy eating plan that fit my lifestyle. This new discovery of my power and capabilities led me to wanting to challenge myself even more.

I added bodybuilding to my regimen, to really build muscle and strength. I eventually started doing figure level bodybuilding competitions. I was in the best shape of my life, enjoying my physical strength and winning awards on stage. I started getting certifications in fitness; teaching part-time fitness classes and helping other women get their bodies in shape.

I still had a major problem…

But as much as I loved my fitness competitions training and teaching, I still had a major problem. It was the part of my life that no one could see; the part I hid. It was the part of my life where I was powerless and miserable. It was my marriage. Even though everything looked good to the outside world, my marriage was falling apart, we were arguing more and more. We'd been together for almost ten years, married for about six at the time.

Truth is, I knew the first year that I'd made a mistake in getting married, but I took a vow, gave my word, and would do whatever it took to stay. You see, I was raised to believe that most marriages took a lot of work and that no matter what happened, it was important as a wife to give it your ALL.

And no matter how many times he disappointed me or let me down, I refused to quit. But eventually, I felt like I was walking on eggshells in my own house just to avoid fighting. Of course, I distracted myself with the gym, fitness, and competitions, so I didn't have to come home. It was the perfect scenario and a great cover-up to disguise my low self-esteem and sense of self-worth to protect me from being around someone who didn't fully recognize the depth of my true value and true worth.

As my soul struggled to navigate these two worlds that I had created, I'd started to turn to meditation, journaling, mindset work, and self-care as part of my way out. I knew I needed to stop trying to fix him - and instead, work on fixing me. It was through this work my mind started to slowly shift. I started to allow myself to listen to my intuition and spiritual guidance more and more. 

The defining moment….

Then one day, the defining moment happened. This was the moment that I now see as the day that changed my entire life. I was standing in my kitchen, shaking and crying. My husband had just flipped our wooden kitchen table over across the room. He was yelling and screaming at me, completely enraged. He started walking toward me as I begin to walk backwards into the corner slowly. At 6 feet tall, 190lbs, his stature towered over mine. I was terrified.

This wasn't the first time he had become furious like this. I had endured his explosive and extreme personality changes before, but this time was different. This was the first time that I actually thought that he was going to hit me. All of this started because I didn't agree with him, over something trivial. He didn't hit me, after yelling slurs at me for a time, his flame seemed to fizzle. And he eventually calmed down. It was a bizarre cycle of behavior that I had seen on and off over the total of 9 years that we had been together.

It had become my "normal"- and for a long time, it was my secret because I was ashamed that I had a husband that couldn't control his temper. I was ashamed because I knew I was betraying myself every time that I accepted his inappropriate behavior, his subsequent apology, and his excuses. All I kept thinking to myself was: "How did I allow my life to end up like this?! How did I end up at 35 years old, supporting this man, giving my life over to him and now being scared? Why am I putting up with this? Are my vows more important than my own sense of self-worth, more important than my own peace of mind and happiness!?!" 

On that day, my shame turned to fear, fear turned to anguish, anguish turned to anger, and anger pushed me to make the decision that my safety and dignity could no longer be compromised.

On that day, my shame turned to fear, fear turned to anguish, anguish turned to anger, and anger pushed me to make the decision that my safety and dignity could no longer be compromised. I knew something had to change. I knew that I couldn't walk on eggshells in my own house anymore. A small voice inside of me said, "Tiffiny - you did this; you created this mess. And just like you created it, you can UNCREATE it!" For the first time in a long time, a glimmer of hope for a better life seeped into my heart. Even then, it took months for me to build the courage to tell him it was over!

Once we got divorced, the real work began. After I sold our house, I was laid off my corporate job and ventured full-time into my own business. I had to rediscover what brought me joy, who I was as a woman, and what legacy I wanted to leave in this world. I had to rebuild my entire life.

I sought out the help of a trained psychotherapist who was also as certified hypnotherapist. Together we focused on the steps I needed to heal. She helped me understand the connection between past childhood traumas and my dysfunctional, co-dependent relationship. She helped me see that I had to learn what I really wanted in life and get clear on my intentions so that I could end the cycle of pain, hurt and shame. I also started reading books on spirituality, the laws of attraction and learned more about the concept of manifesting the life you want to live. I made sure I was sticking to my fitness and healthy eating regimen as I knew that a big part of emotional healing was physical health. I also made meditation, yoga, and journaling a part of my practice. T

his led me to realizing that I really wanted to focus on my business and get organized. I hired a business coach and got to work, focusing on creating a program that transformed people from the inside out. Going through my own life experiences and healing made me realize that I wanted to help women. I wanted every woman to know how special, beautiful and highly valued she was. I wanted women to know that they are not alone and are deserving of living a full, happy, healthy abundant life.

My new life…

It took time, mental, emotional, and spiritual healing, but I picked myself up, cleaned up my past, and started teaching other women who feel stuck how they can do the same. I watched their clarity, confidence, and courage PROPEL FORWARD too!

I have since made a commitment to dedicate the rest of my professional life to helping other smart, resourceful, independent, strong women who want to make a big change in their happiness and satisfaction. I help them breakthrough their inner blocks, smash limiting beliefs, step into their internal power, gain more clarity, boost confidence and courage to have the FREEDOM to create the life, health, career, relationships or business they’ve always dreamed of.

Since then, I’ve worked with many private clients, spoken in front of countless groups. I am living my dream of traveling to the beautiful cities that I love, attracting fun, happy, healthy people into my life, and earning an income that gives me the freedom to do what I choose.

I have created "Clarity, Confidence, and Courage: Step Into Your Power and Love Your Life™," a series of 10 important inner and outer steps for every woman who is ready to take on her life at a whole new level of joy, vitality, and satisfaction. 

This is for the woman who desires to get out of her own way, stop wasting time, grow her abundance, attract loving relationships, get healthier, feel happier, relieve stress, be bolder and more confident in record time!

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Tiffiny J Fambro XOXO

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