Interview with Tiffiny, My Story : Tiffiny, How long have you been doing what you do, and how did you become a Clarity, Confidence, Courage Expert?
To answer this question, it’s probably best that I share with you the amount of time I have been coaching, a defining moment, and a resulting “compelling story”, that brought me to where I am today – coaching people like you on exactly what to do to have absolute clarity on what they want in life, have a plan to step into their power, take action on fulfilling their life purpose and have the courage to stand in their authentic truth. I have been professionally coaching women for the last 3 years and it all started because of that defining moment that happened to me in 2015.
A few years prior, I was 40 pounds overweight; in a well-paying, a high-stress corporate career that required me to travel - a lot; and in a deeply emotionally draining, toxic marriage. The weight gain was a result of all the anxiety and sadness that I was experiencing. It got so bad, I started to feel disgusted and disappointed with myself. Having years of experience in the mental health and public health field, I knew I was slipping into a very dark place.
I told myself, “NO!” I would not give up and fall into the depths of depression without a fight!
So, I decided I would take control of the only thing I felt like I had power over – my weight. Day by day, I started walking to the local park - my walk turned into a jog, then full-on running and eventually I joined a women’s running group and finished several 5 and 10k races. The support and accountability of the other women in my running group made me feel so good and helped me see that I could push myself to change.
I slowly started to lose a little weight and started researching nutrition and how to create a healthy eating plan that fit my lifestyle. This new discovery of my power and capabilities led me to wanting to challenge myself even more.
I added bodybuilding to my regimen, to really build muscle and strength. I eventually started doing figure level bodybuilding competitions. I was in the best shape of my life, enjoying my physical strength and winning awards on stage. I started getting certifications in fitness; teaching part-time fitness classes and helping other women get their bodies in shape.
I still had a major problem…
But as much as I loved my fitness competitions training and teaching, I still had a major problem. It was the part of my life that no one could see; the part I hid. It was the part of my life where I was powerless and miserable. It was my marriage. Even though everything looked good to the outside world, my marriage was falling apart, we were arguing more and more. We'd been together for almost ten years, married for about six at the time.
Truth is, I knew the first year that I'd made a mistake in getting married, but I took a vow, gave my word, and would do whatever it took to stay. You see, I was raised to believe that most marriages took a lot of work and that no matter what happened, it was important as a wife to give it your ALL.
And no matter how many times he disappointed me or let me down, I refused to quit. But eventually, I felt like I was walking on eggshells in my own house just to avoid fighting. Of course, I distracted myself with the gym, fitness, and competitions, so I didn't have to come home. It was the perfect scenario and a great cover-up to disguise my low self-esteem and sense of self-worth to protect me from being around someone who didn't fully recognize the depth of my true value and true worth.
As my soul struggled to navigate these two worlds that I had created, I'd started to turn to meditation, journaling, mindset work, and self-care as part of my way out. I knew I needed to stop trying to fix him - and instead, work on fixing me. It was through this work my mind started to slowly shift. I started to allow myself to listen to my intuition and spiritual guidance more and more.
The defining moment….
Then one day, the defining moment happened. This was the moment that I now see as the day that changed my entire life. I was standing in my kitchen, shaking and crying. My husband had just flipped our wooden kitchen table over across the room. He was yelling and screaming at me, completely enraged. He started walking toward me as I begin to walk backwards into the corner slowly. At 6 feet tall, 190lbs, his stature towered over mine. I was terrified.
This wasn't the first time he had become furious like this. I had endured his explosive and extreme personality changes before, but this time was different. This was the first time that I actually thought that he was going to hit me. All of this started because I didn't agree with him, over something trivial. He didn't hit me, after yelling slurs at me for a time, his flame seemed to fizzle. And he eventually calmed down. It was a bizarre cycle of behavior that I had seen on and off over the total of 9 years that we had been together.
It had become my "normal"- and for a long time, it was my secret because I was ashamed that I had a husband that couldn't control his temper. I was ashamed because I knew I was betraying myself every time that I accepted his inappropriate behavior, his subsequent apology, and his excuses. All I kept thinking to myself was: "How did I allow my life to end up like this?! How did I end up at 35 years old, supporting this man, giving my life over to him and now being scared? Why am I putting up with this? Are my vows more important than my own sense of self-worth, more important than my own peace of mind and happiness!?!"
On that day, my shame turned to fear, fear turned to anguish, anguish turned to anger, and anger pushed me to make the decision that my safety and dignity could no longer be compromised.
On that day, my shame turned to fear, fear turned to anguish, anguish turned to anger, and anger pushed me to make the decision that my safety and dignity could no longer be compromised. I knew something had to change. I knew that I couldn't walk on eggshells in my own house anymore. A small voice inside of me said, "Tiffiny - you did this; you created this mess. And just like you created it, you can UNCREATE it!" For the first time in a long time, a glimmer of hope for a better life seeped into my heart. Even then, it took months for me to build the courage to tell him it was over!
Once we got divorced, the real work began. After I sold our house, I was laid off my corporate job and ventured full-time into my own business. I had to rediscover what brought me joy, who I was as a woman, and what legacy I wanted to leave in this world. I had to rebuild my entire life.
I sought out the help of a trained psychotherapist who was also as certified hypnotherapist. Together we focused on the steps I needed to heal. She helped me understand the connection between past childhood traumas and my dysfunctional, co-dependent relationship. She helped me see that I had to learn what I really wanted in life and get clear on my intentions so that I could end the cycle of pain, hurt and shame. I also started reading books on spirituality, the laws of attraction and learned more about the concept of manifesting the life you want to live. I made sure I was sticking to my fitness and healthy eating regimen as I knew that a big part of emotional healing was physical health. I also made meditation, yoga, and journaling a part of my practice.
This led me to realizing that I really wanted to focus on my business and get organized. I hired a business coach and got to work, focusing on creating a program that transformed people from the inside out. Going through my own life experiences and healing made me realize that I wanted to help women. I wanted every woman to know how special, beautiful and highly valued she was. I wanted women to know that they are not alone and are deserving of living a full, happy, healthy abundant life.
My new life…
It took time, mental, emotional, and spiritual healing, but I picked myself up, cleaned up my past, and started teaching other women who feel stuck how they can do the same. I watched their clarity, confidence, and courage PROPEL FORWARD too!
I have since made a commitment to dedicate the rest of my professional life to helping other smart, resourceful, independent, strong women who want to make a big change in their happiness and satisfaction. I help them breakthrough their inner blocks, smash limiting beliefs, step into their internal power, gain more clarity, boost confidence and courage to have the FREEDOM to create the life, health, career, relationships or business they’ve always dreamed of.
Since then, I’ve worked with many private clients, spoken in front of countless groups. I am living my dream of traveling to the beautiful cities that I love, attracting fun, happy, healthy people into my life, and earning an income that gives me the freedom to do what I choose.
I have created "Clarity, Confidence, and Courage: Step Into Your Power and Love Your Life™," a series of 10 important inner and outer steps for every woman who is ready to take on her life at a whole new level of joy, vitality, and satisfaction.
This is for the woman who desires to get out of her own way, stop wasting time, grow her abundance, attract loving relationships, get healthier, feel happier, relieve stress, be bolder and more confident in record time!
Frequently Asked Questions
Who are your clients?
I work with women just like you who are smart, ambitious, creative business professionals, loving wives, and partners, giving community members and independent thinkers who are have achieved quite a bit in their lives. However, they have never been taught exactly how to "GET HAPPY" and live a life that is in alignment with what brings them joy - a life where the biggest goal is to wake up in bliss and peace, a life that is fun, exciting, and courageous.
And Women who:
Sometimes deal with negative self-talk
Struggle with setting clear, powerful boundaries in certain situations
Have difficulty saying “NO” to things or people
Feel stuck in a job or relationship
Are challenged with weight gain and self-image issues
Struggle with anxiety and low-self esteem
Would like to get clear on what their ideal happy life looks like
Want to build their confidence and belief in self
Need to manage their time and eliminate toxic people or environments
Desire to learn how to manifest more joy, peace, happiness and abundance in their lives
Many of these women are:
Divorcees
Business Owners
Attorneys
Homemakers
High-level executives
Stay at home moms
Junior Associates
Empty nesters
Event planners
Project managers
Real-estate Agents
Various Career Professionals
What makes you different from other Women’s Empowerment Coaches?
What separates me from other women's empowerment coaches is that I have over 16 years of work experience and consulting in mental health, public health, and the wellness/fitness industry. I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology, a master’s degree in public health, various certificates and training in fitness, nutrition, and behavioral health coaching. I also believe in having a functional soul-driven life, meaning I believe in incorporating science-based research with spiritual healing and intuitive empathy to guide women on creating a natural and authentically beautiful life. What that means to you, is you get a SHE-WARRIOR that has been through the fire and used wisdom, grace, education, physical and mental strength and deep connection to spirit to be your EM-POWER-MENT coach.
Motivational speaker, Les Brown says, “religious people talk about going to hell, spiritual people have been there and made it back to tell the story!” So just in case you were wondering, I am very spiritual and use my gifts from the Universe with ease and fun. Because of working with me, my clients have experienced weight loss, better self-esteem, which led to increased income, and some have even cleared up fertility issues because they were able to decrease their stress. My priority is to get you similar results around your deep desires.
You’ll learn how to get clear on what your ideal dream life looks like; how to eliminate toxic people and habits that are pulling you down; how to silence the negative self-talk and affirm a strong, positive mind; how to create daily routines to reach your ultimate intentions; how to build confidence and courage to be bold; how to have a healthier life that makes you feel better physically and mentally; and how become the powerful, strong, beautiful woman you have always wanted to be.
You may not like ALL that I have to tell you, but you can be sure I will always tell you the truth - the truth about what’s standing in the way of your success and how to get rid of it FAST, so you can start getting results in record time (and I throw in a healthy dose of humor and inspiration, which always helps!).
What type of personality do you work best with and what is expected of me?
The “Clarity, Confidence and Courage: Step Into Your Power and Love Your Life™”, 90 day program, was created for women who are absolutely excited and dead serious about figuring out what they want in life, building daily routines, developing habits and systems to increase their confidence, take action on making these changes and want to courageously stand firm in their authentic truth. This means not running around all day long, beating yourself up anymore saying: “I can’t do that, I’m not that type of woman." This program was created for you to put systems in place within a few months (sometimes weeks!), which will eventually lead you to building better relationships, having a healthier mind and body, going after that dream career, generating more cash flow, decreasing stress and being more confident in your life and career.
Being an independent, professional, ambitious, goal-oriented, heart-centered, giving woman myself, I’m known to work best with other women who have similar characteristics. I work with women that are doing well in their career but want to do great; women that are ambitious and know they could be doing more with their lives but feel stuck; women who are super confident in one area but seem to lose their voice in another area; women who are tired of getting the same run-around in their romantic relationships and want something REAL. I work with those who are committed to their success; women who are super-ready to get going and just want to know exactly what steps to take to get clear on what they want; women who what to have better health, more self-care and time for their needs; and women who want to feel valued and loved.
My clients often tell me – "just tell me what to do, and I'll do it!" Consider what you'll do with me to be a high-octane crash course on everything you need to know to feel healthier, have positive thoughts, build up your self-esteem and belief in yourself, be bolder and more courageous and how to manifest a rich, savory, beautiful, soul-driven life. You will be expected to take serious and consistent action. No excuses anymore, just a very different way of thinking and full support while you achieve this incredibly exciting goal of transforming into your NEW life, the life you have been dreaming of but never felt you had permission to live; the life that you are excited to wake up to; a full-on, purpose-driven life!
For what type of professionals are your programs NOT going to work?
Please know I'm very selective in who I work with, and I cherry-pick my clients, choosing to (gently) turn away people who aren't suited for my programs and won't get the results for which they would have signed up for. (It wouldn't be fair to them.) The “Clarity, Confidence and Courage: Step Into Your Power and Love Your Life™," 90-day program is NOT for those who have no money coming in and are absolutely, financially desperate, at least not right away. It’s been my experience that people in financial crisis do not trust the recommendations I give them and do not do the work (probably because they spend so much time worrying about where they are going to get next month’s rent check or mortgage payment.) If you fall within this category, it’s ABSOLUTELY OK. We’ve all been in times of financial crisis at one point or another. Do yourself (3) favors:
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Get some money coming in with a full-time or part-time job at the very least, and then call me. This will take the edge off and provide a little more peace of mind. Mostly, it will de-clutter your mind enough to focus on your “Clarity, Confidence and Courage: Step Into Your Power and Love Your Life™” assignments and the BIG picture. Once you start getting focused on what you really want to do with your life as a result of our work, you can then start reducing the hours you work at that other job and focus on your own live affirming career path.
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Sign up for my free weekly newsletter on my website at https://cccwomensempowerment.com/. The free information will get you started towards your goals until you’re ready to work with me one-on-one.
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Make a point to join my free Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/ClarityConfidenceCourageWomensEmpowerment. The tips I give weekly will give you LOTS to think about.
Doing these three things will really help you get primed for our work. When you're ready, call me, and we'll get you started. (I'm in no rush and will be here when you need me.) Other types of personalities I won’t work with (without exception) are the whiner or the chronic skeptic, as well as individuals who consistently make excuses for not getting their assignments done or challenging every aspect of the program. If you are one of these people, I gently and respectfully ask that you not call, and I hope you understand why. We’ll probably just not work well together, and I wouldn’t want you to waste your time or money. Is that fair?
What exactly is "Clarity, Confidence, and Courage: Step Into Your Power and Love Your Life™” program, and what does it include?
“Clarity, Confidence and Courage: Step Into Your Power and Love Your Life™” helps you gain clarity on what your dream life entails, helps you get clear on what has been holding you back, guides you to understanding your true value, your worth and where your power really comes from, how to manifest what you want (health, money, love and more time efficiency), creating powerful intentions that get you results as well as the outer pieces to powerfully reflect the new you.
Here’s what the System gets you to do:
1. GAIN CLARITY ON YOUR DREAM LIFE
We look at where you are and get CRYSTAL clear about who you want to be; the type of life you want to live, and the experiences you want to have. Before you can create your own exciting, fun, joyful reality, you have to KNOW what you want. You will learn how to connect with your raw intuition and understand the difference between intuitively aligning your life with your values and standards versus just setting goals. You will understand what it means to create your own reality, how to use the law of attraction, new belief systems, and mindset shifts to manifest what you desire.
2. IDENTIFY & ELIMINATE LIMITING BELIEFS
You want a new career but don't think you have enough skills; you want a loving romantic relationship but can't figure out why you keep attracting the same unfulfilling partners; you physically and emotionally feel sick and tired but not sure how to fix it. We work to nail down what is keeping you feeling stuck, wasting your time, and pull you out of that energy-draining, joy depleting cycle. We will dig into the deeper, unconscious blocks that you may not have even considered. The toxic people, places, conditions that are draining your energy and giving you anxiety. We will be delving into the negative self-talk and put-downs. We will then work to deconstruct all the self-fulfilling limiting beliefs and blocks that have fed your feelings of fear, insecurity, low confidence, overwhelm, not-enoughness, and all the messy mind clutter that prevents you from shining as your full amazing self!
3.POUR IN LOVE AND SELF-CARE
After we clean out the mental and emotional chaos, we pour in self-love and care. Together we will work to figure out what you need to incorporate in your life to feel at your BEST. What small changes can you make to feel healthier, happier, more relaxed, bolder, and peaceful? I will guide you on various stress-relieving techniques, daily affirmations, mindset shifting strategies, and physical care options that you can utilize to pour in all those delicious feelings of happiness and bliss.
4. IGNITE CONFIDENCE AND PERSONAL POWER
Together we’ll look at all the areas where your confidence shines. Learn what makes you confident in those areas and what you look like when you are leaning into your confidence. We will then examine the areas where you feel you need a confidence BOOST. Those times where you lose your strength to speak up in meetings, when you don’t express how you really feel in your relationships, those times where you neglect to set clear boundaries and say NO. We will then develop a set of daily routines that consistently feed your personal confidence and belief in your internal power and strength.
5. IDENTIFY THE NEW SELF & CREATE MINDSHIFTING DAILY ROUTINES
We will identify the you that lives every day in your dream life. We will discuss what new habits you need to incorporate in your daily schedule to get closer to that powerful woman. We will co-create simple morning, midday and evening routines that consistently fuel your mind with authentic, positive, forward-moving thoughts; and make you feel like an amazing, beautiful being.
6. CREATE A ROAD MAP FOR SPECIFIC MILESTONES
We’ll spend time creating actionable steps that you will take to start initiating your dream life plan, and how to hit specific milestones. We will start by taking account of the knowledge, skills, and abilities you already have that aligns with your path. We will make note of what tools or resources you currently have or may need and the amount of time you will utilize to go full force on your plan. We will build on the momentum and excitement and celebrate all the small wins along the journey.
7. BE COURAGEOUS - GET OUT THERE & SHINE!
An amazing life needs excitement and sparkle! We will investigate some things you can do to add more adventure to your life. For example, from wearing red lipstick or taking a new sculpting class or asking for a raise, to taking a pole fitness class, or going zip-lining in Costa Rica. We will explore different ideas around some things you may have always wanted to do that you never gave yourself permission to do. We will go over how to decrease fear, shame, and doubt in order to step into your authentic truth and be daring.
8. LET GO OF THE SUPERWOMAN!
“It’s a bird, it’s a plane, it’s SUPERWOMAN!!!” Being everybody’s everything and doing everything for everyone all the time can be overwhelming. Yes, we women ROCK! But we must acknowledge that we are human beings too, that deserve compassion, grace, respect, and love. We will look at creating a system to manage and respect your time, keep your day organized and efficient, and delegate tasks that are not high on your priority list. (Hint: you are the #1 item on your priority list!) We will discuss and roleplay various scenarios around how to release people and situations that are a complete time and energy SUCK. And how to ALLOW yourself to RECEIVE graciously, without guilt, versus always being the giver. We will discuss the power of feminine energy; how to harness it and use it to feel powerful, beautiful and sexy no matter what.
9. FOCUS IN & MAKE IT SECOND NATURE
We’ll look at what you should be focusing on to keep moving forward. We will go over what other actions you need to be taking each day to leverage your time, effectiveness and abundance attraction ability so that your life continues to generate joy, peace, health and happiness consistently. Together we will strategize on how to tie up loose ends into a neat bow.
10. CELEBRATE!
We’ll focus a lot of our time celebrating wins and creating the new habit of celebrating what’s showing up for you. What you focus on expands and everything you are learning and experiencing is of your creation. Your confidence will THRUST FORWARD as you consistently produce results over and over again! Celebrate what shows up so you can pave the way for even more success!
Does this really work?
Yes! The result of our work is an approach to shifting your mindset and recreating yourself to be the confident, healthy, abundant, self-affirming, self-loving, respected, powerful EMPRESS that lives inside of you! (see testimonials)
You can expect to:
Have big breakthroughs and ah-ha moments, health benefits, living stress-free
Let go and release trauma in the body
Forgive yourself and others & find more peace and compassion
Anxiety dissipates and peace and calm sets in
Creating new standards for yourself
Fill your self-love gas tank & learn how to self-nurture
Reaching for your passions in life
Feel empowered & excited about the future
Develop more compassion for yourself and others
Be clear concise and honest in your communication
Create clear, healthy boundaries
Have more ease and grace in your life
Truly love the version of yourself that shows up to play this game called life
Learn how to say NO and honor your yes and no’s
Find your happiness
Watch your best life unfold with ease
Connect with your intuition
Create DEEP intimacy and meaning in your personal relationships
Understand how your soul is awakening and developing
End the drama cycles and patterns
Raise your self-esteem and self-confidence
Rewrite your story
Learn how to see your relationships as mirrors and open channels for transformation
Gain unshakeable confidence in yourself – (a lot of my clients tell me that is worth the investment alone).
Learn proven techniques for releasing your internal resistance and self-sabotaging tendencies
Take action and start living your passion and purpose with ease.
Expand time and learn to live in the state of flow
Experience true freedom
Learn time-saving techniques and best ways to delegate low priority tasks
How can I see what it’s like to work with you?
Please go to the Client Testimonials page and read all of them. See which ones you feel drawn to, either because the person has gotten the results you want to get too, or perhaps because that person is in a similar situation.
How quickly can I expect results?
That depends on how quickly you can make those inner shifts. Some clients are ready to go and start making significant breakthroughs in a very short time frame, sometimes even a few weeks, while others have a bit more work to do first. It also depends on how significant your goals are or if they are tied to quantities, such as a specific amount of weight loss or a significant health condition.
How can I guarantee myself that I will gain more clarity, higher confidence, and better self-esteem in record time?
Do all the assigned work. Be totally committed to your success. Have an open mind and be willing to try techniques that may be new to you. Understand that this is a process, a proven one, that works if you take action and implement all of the steps. All my clients who have diligently applied every step of “Clarity, Confidence and Courage: Step Into Your Power and Love Your Life™” have successfully conquered their fears, limiting beliefs and self-sabotaging behaviors in much less time than they would have on their own AND have created actionable purpose-driven intentions towards living a happy and joyful life.
Tiffiny, based on everything I’ve read and heard about you, I know you’re the one I want to learn from. What are my options for getting started with you?
Congratulations on making a decision for success! I’m happy to work with you to achieve your ultimate dream life. The best way to work with me is in my 90-day “Clarity, Confidence and Courage: Step Into Your Power and Love Your Life™” program. Here are some of the results you can expect...
Have big breakthroughs and ah-ha moments
Health benefits, living stress-free
Let go and release trauma in the body
Forgive yourself and others & find more peace and compassion
Anxiety dissipates and peace and calm sets in
Creating new standards for yourself
Fill your self-love gas tank & learn how to self-nurture
Reaching for your passions in life
Feel empowered & excited about the future
Develop more compassion for yourself and others
Be clear concise and honest in your communication
Create clear, healthy boundaries
Have more ease and grace in your life
Truly love the version of yourself that shows up to play this game called life
Learn how to say NO and honor your yes and no’s
Find your happiness
Watch your best life unfold with ease
Connect with your intuition
Create DEEP intimacy and meaning in your personal relationships
Understand how your soul is awakening and developing
End the drama cycles and patterns
Raise your self-esteem and self-confidence
Rewrite your story
Learn how to see your relationships as mirrors and open channels for transformation
Gain unshakeable confidence in yourself – (a lot of my clients tell me that is worth the investment alone).
Learn proven techniques for releasing your internal resistance and self-sabotaging tendencies
Take action and start living your passion and purpose with ease.
Expand time and learn to live in the state of flow
Experience true freedom
Learn time-saving techniques and best ways to delegate low priority tasks so that you can become #1 on the list
OK, I’m ready to do this for myself, but I have a couple of additional questions. Can I call you?
Good, sounds like you’re ready to be pulled into your future! Yes, I would love to get on the phone with you. Please schedule a call with me;
I can’t wait to see you succeed and am honored to be the one to help you. Let’s get going!
