When I was a kid, it seemed like the world was one big playhouse. I can remember playing with my toys at home, playing at school, and even playing in my grandparents’ backyard. Then, maybe around 3rd grade, I started to feel a weird sensation in the pit of my stomach. It was like fear, mixed […]

When I was younger, I was very fearful. Fearful to try new things, that I would fail, that I was not good enough. My faith and belief in my abilities, skills, and knowledge were very low, so I rarely tried anything new. I just played it safe by focusing only on experiences that I 100% […]

Almost every person I’ve met has experienced some type of hardship in life on various levels. What may have been a difficult experience for me could not be a big deal to you. What may have been a horrible circumstance for you may not seem so bad to someone else. The bottom line is that […]

No matter how terrible a marriage might have been, many people get accustomed to being a part of a couple- especially if they had been married to their spouse for a long time. Hatred from being in a married partnership unit itself is not the reason most people get divorced- it’s the issues within the […]

When a woman has lived through a chaotic marriage, you may think that a getting divorce will lead to more peace. However, there is a possibility that chaos will still be present even after a divorce. The Latin root term “di” means apart to divide or separate. The act of getting a divorce means that […]

I remember it like it was yesterday. I was sitting in my car in the parking lot of my job. I had just gotten off work, and the thought was eating me alive. I had been trying to figure out how to tell my parents I was getting a divorce. I knew I needed to […]

Let me tell you a little story about a day in the life of Jennifer… Jennifer wakes up and immediately checks her phone. She checks her email just in case her boss emailed her with an extra assignment, sees she has a missed call from her mom who likes to call in the middle of […]

When I first started going through the divorce process, I knew in my mind that I wanted to stay friends with my ex. Don’t get me wrong, I had a lot of mixed emotions; from sadness, to anger, to guilt and shame. But, I didn’t hate my ex. I felt like I was losing my […]

In my last blog post, I discussed the concept of codependence. Just to summarize, codependence is when you lose your identity in another person. You are no longer able to distinguish your emotions from their emotions; you focus all your time and energy on taking care of that other person, and you are willing to self-sacrifice […]

If you have spent any time reading about relationships, trauma, or unhealthy relationship behavior, then you have probably heard of codependency. It seems to be the latest buzzword around dysfunctional relationships but it’s not new. The term codependent first started as a concept used to describe the relationship a drug addict or alcoholic had with anyone […]