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I remember the first time I decided to intentionally change my identity. I was in a disastrous marriage and 40lbs over a healthy weight for my 5’3” frame. I was unhappy with the way I looked physically and felt internally. So, I started looking up workouts and healthy eating regimens.
Then, I started walking every day until my walk became a run. I made a decision that I wanted to be the type of woman that enjoyed running. So, I joined a local running group in my community and started doing races on the weekend. I went to running clinics and purchased runner’s apparel.
Within a few months, I started to enjoy running and met a new group of friends that loved running. More importantly, I lost weight and started to feel better from the inside out.
My confidence increased and although I was still dealing with a difficult marriage, I found an experience that brought me joy.
I had officially changed my identity in one area of my life- I had become a runner!
When I talk about changing your identity, I’m not talking about changing your name or going into witness protection. I’m talking about getting clear on the type of person you want to be. In this context, changing your identity is about adding another dimension to your persona and lifestyle.
Perhaps you always enjoyed art but never dived into the art world. Or maybe you’ve always loved rock climbing but never gave it your full attention. Perhaps you’ve always wanted to be a writer but instead went to school to be an accountant.
The bottom line is, it’s not too late to do what you love. You can do what brings you joy and makes you smile. For some, this may be expanding their life to fit in extracurricular activities. For others, it may mean completely changing their entire life and becoming a different person physically, mentally, and spiritually.
The change can be slow, fast, big, or small- it’s completely up to you. At the end of the day, creating a new identity is all about moving you closer to what makes you happier, more confident, more courageous, and more creative. It doesn’t matter how fast or slow you get there- what matters is starting the process.
Tiffiny has a B.A. in Psychology, and master’s degree in Public Health Education. She worked in consulting for over 16 years, as well as previously owning a fitness and health business. In her personal life, she used personal development, mindset and health strategies to go from being overworked in a demanding corporate career, emotionally drained in a toxic marriage, physically unhealthy, and depressed to becoming an award-winning figure level bodybuilding athlete and entrepreneur. As a women’s empowerment coach, she works to help women get clear on their goals, build confidence, increase self-esteem, take action on their deep desires and create a life they love