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In my last blog post, I discussed the concept of codependence. Just to summarize, codependence is when you lose your identity in another person. You are no longer able to distinguish your emotions from their emotions; you focus all your time and energy on taking care of that other person, and you are willing to self-sacrifice a lot to be in the relationship.
Codependency can lead to depression, anxiety, and is an overall unhealthy attachment to another person. However, there is a better way toward living a confident, healthy, happy lifestyle while being in a relationship. It’s called interdependence!
Interdependence is when you can be in a relationship with another person and still keep your identity intact. In an interdependent relationship, you can openly express your needs, your thoughts, your ideas, your values, and your beliefs without any type of negative repercussions.
These relationships promote feelings of value, worthiness, and a celebration of each other’s differences. People in this type of relationship still depend on each other for love, affection, and caring, but not to the point where one person feels completely depleted or abused. There is a sense of balance, understanding, individual self-control, and individual self-awareness present.
Here are some signs of a healthy interdependent personality type:
When you have an interdependent personality, and you display interdependent behavior, you usually attract people in your life that are authentic, respectful, and value you as a person. Many times, these are the types of people that:
The best thing about having an interdependent personality and living an interdependent lifestyle is that you understand how to enjoy your own company. You have mastered the skill of loving yourself, replenishing your energy, and knowing your value and self-worth outside of your relationships.
Being interdependent doesn’t mean you have to constantly be alone, but it does mean that you are comfortable when you are alone with yourself. It allows you to connect with people in a healthy, non-toxic, and non-addictive way.
If this is something you want to learn more about, jump on my calendar for a free call. As a life coach, I focus on helping divorced women get clear on what they want, figure out what is holding them back, and create a strategy to get them moving toward their new life goals.
Tiffiny has a B.A. in Psychology, and master’s degree in Public Health Education. She worked in consulting for over 16 years, as well as previously owning a fitness and health business. In her personal life, she used personal development, mindset and health strategies to go from being overworked in a demanding corporate career, emotionally drained in a toxic marriage, physically unhealthy, and depressed to becoming an award-winning figure level bodybuilding athlete and entrepreneur. As a women’s empowerment coach, she works to help women get clear on their goals, build confidence, increase self-esteem, take action on their deep desires and create a life they love