How to Be a Leader in Your Own Life

By Tiffiny J. Fambro | Uncategorized

Mar 26

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When I think about the concept of leadership, I think about a person in charge of an organization or a group. Most successful leaders have personal values and characteristics that motivate followers and use their strengths to move the group forward.

What Does It Mean to Be a Leader in Your Own Life?

Being a leader in your own life means holding yourself accountable for your life and taking responsibility for the outcome of your actions.

It involves understanding that you can control your thoughts, beliefs, values, and responses to the world.

Leading your own life means working to understand your strengths and weaknesses, getting clarity on where you want to go, and then figuring out who you must become to get there.

What Are the 5 Simple Ways to Lead Yourself?


The first step to leading your life is to get clear on who you are and build a meaningful, loving, kind relationship with yourself.

This involves deep self-awareness, building your self-esteem, and cultivating self-love.

Self-clarity helps you understand how to relate to yourself, what you like or dislike, what is best for your personality type or life, and what you need to feel good about yourself.

Gaining clarity is priceless because it is difficult to lead your life if you don’t know who you are or what you want.

Live Vision

Once you have clarity on who you are, you need to start figuring out your life’s overall vision.

What are your dreams, goals, life mission, and purpose?

What are you passionate about, and how can you achieve those passions?

If you understand the vision, you can start creating the road map toward that vision and tangible steps to lead yourself forward.

Healthy Internal Boundaries

When people think of boundaries, they often think about external boundaries, such as telling someone no or protecting one’s physical body from another.

Although external boundaries are essential, self-leadership also involves a lot of internal boundary setting.

Internal boundaries include having self-discipline, building personal productivity habits, and telling yourself no to anything that is not overall positively moving your life forward.

For example, if you are trying to be healthier, setting limits around the highly processed foods you consume is a healthy internal boundary.

Or, if you are working on a project that you must complete by a specific date, setting limits around how much time you spend on social media would be an internal productivity boundary.

These types of boundaries help you respect yourself when you can follow through with the standards you set for yourself.

As a result, you begin to build your self-esteem and self-confidence.

Internal boundaries also feed into external boundary setting to protect your physical life when dealing with others.

Clear Communication

When leading your life, you must have clear, honest communication with yourself about every area of your life, such as finances, health, relationships, career, and goals.

Honest communication means writing down, assessing where you are, and asking yourself what to work on.

This helps set clear expectations and lets you evaluate whether you need to make changes.

Internal communication is also about observing what you say to yourself.

Are you overly self-critical? Do you say nice affirmations to yourself such as “I am so proud of me” or “I am enough”?

Do you motivate and inspire yourself with positive words, or do you have limiting beliefs that tell your mind that you “can’t” be, do, or have what you want?

As a leader, it’s crucial to have a clear inner dialogue that helps you feel good about yourself, your life, and the direction in which you are going.

Taking meaningful action

Finally, successful leaders take daily, meaningful action that helps move them closer to their goals every day.

Taking action daily is about implementing habits that help you grow, build and maintain your life.

Depending on the type of life you want to lead, this may mean building healthy habits such as exercising a few times a week or going to bed at the same time every night so that you have the energy to be productive.

It can also mean taking significant, bold action that would drastically change your life, such as moving to another city, starting a business, or quitting your job.

The idea is to not just think or write about what you will do but do it!

Take the daily steps to physically get tangible results, leading you to a beautiful fulfilling life.


Creating a happy, healthy, abundant life requires you to take complete accountability for yourself by being the leader of your life.

Leading your life will require you to transform to build the skillsets that will bring success in every area of your life.

Self-leadership requires clarity, confidence, and courage; clarity around who you are and where you want to be; and the confidence to believe in yourself and take significant, bold action steps toward your goal.

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About the Author

Tiffiny has a B.A. in Psychology, and master’s degree in Public Health Education. She worked in consulting for over 16 years, as well as previously owning a fitness and health business. In her personal life, she used personal development, mindset and health strategies to go from being overworked in a demanding corporate career, emotionally drained in a toxic marriage, physically unhealthy, and depressed to becoming an award-winning figure level bodybuilding athlete and entrepreneur. As a women’s empowerment coach, she works to help women get clear on their goals, build confidence, increase self-esteem, take action on their deep desires and create a life they love

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