How to Cultivate Self-Love in 3 Simple Steps

By Tiffiny J. Fambro | Selflove

Feb 10
why self love is important and how to cultivate it

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As a women’s empowerment coach, I am always asking women questions. What do they want? How do they feel? What are their goals? One major question that sometimes makes women go silent is, “Do you love yourself?”

Many women tell me, “Yes Tiffiny, of course, I love myself,” and then they give me a laundry list of actions that they do for themselves. These actions consist of things like going shopping, getting their nails done, or going on a vacation. I often explain to them that, although getting massages and going on vacation is nice, that is self-care and not self-love.

A person’s level of self-love is always obvious to me. This is because their life is always a reflection of how they feel about themselves. This is why learning why self-love is important and how to cultivate it is so important!

What is Self-Love?

Self-love is the concept of having a healthy, high regard for one’s well-being, health, and happiness. Self-love is an internal emotion but can influence our decisions in many areas. For example, the friends and romantic partners we choose, the careers or jobs we choose, etc. It can also impact how we treat others and the types of environments in which we allow ourselves to live or experience.

Cultivating self-love starts with internal transformation. That transformation involves a person elevating their belief around their value, self-worth, dignity, and compassion for themselves (and others). Also, their overall deservingness of happiness and good health.

Once someone can develop self-love, they are then able to tangibly express that belief through action and behavioral change.

How Do I Cultivate Self-Love?

Let’s go over 3 ways you can cultivate self-love.

1. Mindfulness

To start examining how you feel about yourself, you must start to become more aware of who you are. You must also become aware of what you want, and how you feel.

Building a daily mindfulness routine helps you get super focused and aware. This way, you can start making necessary changes to your life.

2. Set Boundaries

As you build your awareness, you may realize that you need to start saying no to people, places, or conditions that are not of your highest good or health. Saying no or setting limits protects your energy and time from situations that may deplete or harm you.

3. Forgive Yourself

Many times, I see my clients struggling to get past negative beliefs about themselves. This is usually because they never forgave themselves for past failures or traumas. Forgiveness is truly the highest form of self-love because it acknowledges deep compassion for ourselves.


What will happen once you are able to truly cultivate self-love? Well, you will realize that you have the power to take your life to a higher level of joy, peace, and happiness.

So, how much do you really love yourself? Download my free self-love quiz and find your level of self-love!


Ready to start the process of gaining more clarity, confidence, and courage? I have created 3 simple steps to help you on your journey.

  • First – Download my Free 5-Day Mindset Detox Workbook – Click Here
  • Second – Join my Free private Facebook women’s community to get coaching and support – Click Here
  • Third– Get started on your CCC journey with my online self-paced entry course The 5 Keys to Magnetizing Confidence for $49.99CLICK HERE to review and purchase the course. 

Don’t let more time pass by, reclaim your life today!

About the Author

Tiffiny has a B.A. in Psychology, and master’s degree in Public Health Education. She worked in consulting for over 16 years, as well as previously owning a fitness and health business. In her personal life, she used personal development, mindset and health strategies to go from being overworked in a demanding corporate career, emotionally drained in a toxic marriage, physically unhealthy, and depressed to becoming an award-winning figure level bodybuilding athlete and entrepreneur. As a women’s empowerment coach, she works to help women get clear on their goals, build confidence, increase self-esteem, take action on their deep desires and create a life they love

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