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If you’re reading this in 2020, you’ll know that it has been a long and challenging year. From a global pandemic to massive social unrest, political upheavals, job loss, death- the list just keeps getting longer and longer.
However, if you have been on earth for as long as I have (40+ years) then you know there will always be challenging times. Times where we as human beings are not sure if we’ll make it or survive. Times where we feel uncertain, ungrounded, internally conflicted, and overall unhappy.
Here is what I know to be true: tough times don’t last, but tough people do. I know that quote has been used many times over the years, but it’s true. The only thing that lasts forever is change. Circumstances, no matter how dire, will eventually change.
The question is, how do we maintain our peace through these changing times? Well, I have 3 techniques that I use and that I teach my clients to use to find their peace and keep going.
You have the power to control yourself, your feelings, your beliefs, and how you respond to situations. However, you cannot control the outside world directly. Be willing to focus on controlling yourself and your immediate environment. When we stop trying to control everything around us and instead focus on ourselves, we feel much better about our circumstances and can maintain our inner peace.
When it comes to finding your peace, sometimes you must remove and separate yourself from anything that is the opposite of peace. This means detaching yourself (even temporarily) from any person, place, or condition that you perceive as toxic, abusive, unhealthy, or causes depression or anxiety. You may need to stop watching the news for a while, take a break from social media, put your phone on silent, or stop talking to certain people. Detach yourself from the negativity and reclaim your peace.
Sit down, take a sheet of paper or journal, and write out what you consider a peaceful experience. It can be writing about a specific day that made you feel at peace or just an idea that would make you feel more peaceful. For example, maybe write about taking a walk on a beach or writing about sipping cocoa and reading a book.
The point is to allow the creative parts of your brain to activate and let your mind think about the peaceful experience. The result is that you will not only feel more peaceful emotionally, but your body will start to show signs of calm. Your heart rate will decrease, your breathing will slow, your blood pressure may stabilize, and the muscles in your body may start to relax. This technique has a psychological as well as a physiological effect on the mind and body.
These techniques will help you to destress, calm down, and find peace of mind during uncertain and stressful times. Be willing to allow the peace that you can control to flow into your life and remember that tough times will eventually pass. Even during crazy times you still have the power to find your peace!
Tiffiny has a B.A. in Psychology, and master’s degree in Public Health Education. She worked in consulting for over 16 years, as well as previously owning a fitness and health business. In her personal life, she used personal development, mindset and health strategies to go from being overworked in a demanding corporate career, emotionally drained in a toxic marriage, physically unhealthy, and depressed to becoming an award-winning figure level bodybuilding athlete and entrepreneur. As a women’s empowerment coach, she works to help women get clear on their goals, build confidence, increase self-esteem, take action on their deep desires and create a life they love