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HOW TO IDENTIFY AND STOP ATTRACTING NARCISSISTS IN YOUR LIFE

By Tiffiny J. Fambro | Confidence

Nov 24

Have you ever met a person who seemed to be so charming but after a while it seemed like all they did was talk about themselves? 

They turned every topic into a discussion about their life, they seemed very critical of other people and you could just feel the negative energy draining out of their pores? 

Well you may have been dealing with a narcissist.  When it comes to building confidence, self-love and self-respect you need to be mindful of the type of people you allow in your life.   

Narcissist personality types are some of the worse types of behavior to deal with when creating a life, you love.  So, it’s super important to understand the traits, behavior of narcissists, and how to stop attracting them into your life.

WHAT IS A NARCISSIST?

A narcissist is a psychological personality disorder in which a person needs all of the focus to be on them, they need a lot of attention, admiration and tend to negatively react when they don’t get what they want. 

Narcissists often behave as if the world revolves around them, they have very little empathy for others unless they realize that showing empathy will give them more attention.

Direct signs of a narcissist are:

  • They tend to interrupt you in conversations or don’t even allow you to speak.
  • They often violate your boundaries and will get upset if you confront the behavior.
  • They have a sense of entitlement and a grandiose personality.
  • Narcissists can have very charming personalities in order to manipulate a person. However, when confronted the charm quickly disappears and the true personality is exposed.
  • They often believe that their way is the only “right way” and that other people are just wrong.
  • They many times are okay with breaking the rules or social norms in order to get what they want, like a con artist or a career thief.
  • They are completely okay with manipulating people to get what they want however they get very upset if someone does the same thing to them.
  • Narcissists are very quick to judge, criticize, or bully others in order to maintain a feeling of superiority. This is due to a deep sense of insecurity.

Reason you attract narcissists:

I have had clients that have dealt with narcissists in romantic relationships and friendships.  And they can not seem to understand why they attract these types of people.

Unfortunately, it’s possible that if you have dealt with narcissists, you may have grown up in a house with a narcissist parent or sibling. I see this so often with people who have had a parent that was an alcoholic or drug user or the parent was dealing with mental health issues or was physically abusive to the other parent.

So, when you grow up as an adult woman, you still attract narcissist relationships because in your mind you think that behavior is normal.

So how do you deal with a narcissist:

  • If you are in a relationship with a narcissist you will need to go to professional therapy as a couple.  However, most narcissists will refuse to get help or acknowledge their issues in a therapy session because they don’t think there is anything wrong with them.
  • Stop attracting narcissists by setting firm boundaries, building up your self-esteem, building up your confidence, and prioritizing your needs.  The biggest thing that repels a narcissist is someone who cares enough about themselves to not tolerate inappropriate behavior.

If you are sick of dealing with unhealthy behavior from people and ready to learn how to attract better friendships, create clear boundaries and speak up for yourself, then take a look at my course, “The 5 Keys to Magnetizing Confidence” and learn more about how to build a more confident, fulfilled life.

Read more about it here: https://cccwomensempowerment.com/5-keys-to-magnetizing-confidence/

XOXO Tiffiny



About the Author

Tiffiny has a B.A. in Psychology, and master’s degree in Public Health Education. She worked in consulting for over 16 years, as well as previously owning a fitness and health business. In her personal life, she used personal development, mindset and health strategies to go from being overworked in a demanding corporate career, emotionally drained in a toxic marriage, physically unhealthy, and depressed to becoming an award-winning figure level bodybuilding athlete and entrepreneur. As a women’s empowerment coach, she works to help women get clear on their goals, build confidence, increase self-esteem, take action on their deep desires and create a life they love

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