When I was a little girl, I was taught to be nice, treat people with respect, and always be willing to sacrifice my own happiness if it meant helping someone else. I think my parents did a great job instilling the concept of altruism in me at an early age.
I am happy to say that grew up to be a very loving and giving person, but there came a point in my life where I really gave wayyyyyyyyyyyy too much. I gave 110% when I was in romantic relationships, friendships, group work projects, even in volunteer groups.
It was like I was constantly giving, then when it came time to give to myself, I was completely depleted of energy.
I finally got to a point where I realized my giving behavior did not match my receiving behavior. I was literally self-sacrificing for the good of everyone else but myself. What made matters worse was that it started to affect my happiness and peace of mind.
My stress increased, which caused my anxiety to increase, which caused me to overeat sugary processed foods, which led to me gaining weight and feeling lethargic, which induced the beginning stages of depression.
All the self-sacrificing I was doing was leading to unhealthy lifestyle choices and an overall unhealthy life. I finally had to make a decision that it was time to put myself as my priority and end my toxic self-sacrificing.
This meant that I had to implement some significant changes in my life and change how I interacted with others.
These are just a few tips that you can incorporate in your life to help you step back into you power and regain control over your life, your time and your energy.
There is nothing wrong with giving to others, but the problem comes in when we give to the point of physical, mental, and emotional distress of our own wellbeing.
If you are ready to learn a little bit more on how you can train yourself to reduce or eliminate toxic behavior from your life, let’s chat.
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Tiffiny has a B.A. in Psychology, and master’s degree in Public Health Education. She worked in consulting for over 16 years, as well as previously owning a fitness and health business. In her personal life, she used personal development, mindset and health strategies to go from being overworked in a demanding corporate career, emotionally drained in a toxic marriage, physically unhealthy, and depressed to becoming an award-winning figure level bodybuilding athlete and entrepreneur. As a women’s empowerment coach, she works to help women get clear on their goals, build confidence, increase self-esteem, take action on their deep desires and create a life they love