Have you ever heard the saying, “good girls finish last”? Well let’s just say, I spent all of my childhood, adolescents, most of my 20’s and some of my 30’s finishing DEAD LAST!!
Yes, I was a self-proclaimed, “good girl”. I treated everyone the way I wanted to be treated, with kindness, respect, attention, compassion, and understanding. However, that behavior was rarely reciprocated to me.
It took me a long time to understand why I seemed to attract the most disrespectful, mean, cold-hearted, psychologically abusive, bullying types of people into my life.
After many years of heartbreak I finally realized that the number one reason was that I often times put my heart and soul into the wrong people. I treated every the same by giving everyone the same amount of my love, time and attention.
As a former, “good girl”, I am here to tell you, everyone does not deserve your love, your time or your attention. Being “good” is not equivalent to being wise and understanding how to gain respect and kindness from others.
I had to learn the importance of discernment when it came to allowing certain people in my life and understanding how to confront bullies, whether they were friends or close relatives.
I had to realize that the main person that I needed to pour my heart and soul into, was myself. Loving yourself, being kind to yourself, being respectful to your own needs, gives you perspective on how you should be treated by others.
This was the lesson that I had to learn, and once I finally understood that concept, I took off my “good girl” hat and put on my “confident woman” hat.
When I started focusing on building my confidence and belief in my worthiness, everything changed. I stopped attracting narcissistic, mean people and started to attract kind-hearted, giving, intelligent, respectful individuals.
Confidence is not something that we are all born with, it is a skill that takes practice. However, once you have it and are consistent in your practice, it will serve you better than any attribute you possess.
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Tiffiny has a B.A. in Psychology, and master’s degree in Public Health Education. She worked in consulting for over 16 years, as well as previously owning a fitness and health business. In her personal life, she used personal development, mindset and health strategies to go from being overworked in a demanding corporate career, emotionally drained in a toxic marriage, physically unhealthy, and depressed to becoming an award-winning figure level bodybuilding athlete and entrepreneur. As a women’s empowerment coach, she works to help women get clear on their goals, build confidence, increase self-esteem, take action on their deep desires and create a life they love