By Tiffiny J. Fambro | Confidence

Oct 12

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As a women’s empowerment coach, it brings me so much joy to see my one on one clients accomplish so much in my 90-day program.  I can literally see the transformation start within the first 2 weeks and it just gets better from there.  

I love seeing my clients get exactly what they want; whether that is a romantic relationship, a promotion at work, gaining a healthier lifestyle, building their confidence, or building the courage to move to a new environment.

However, around day 45, I notice a phenomenon occur.  This is around the time that they start to do what I like to call, “fight” their own progress. 

It’s when they struggle to allow joy, peace, abundance, or happiness to come into their lives.  This often takes the form of negative thinking, self-sabotage, or doubting that what they have achieved will stay in their lives.

When this happens, I bring the issue to their attention and help them work through the situation.  I often find that there are 3 main issues that they must overcome to allow in their abundance and feelings of deservingness.

Below I go into detail on the issues and how my clients and you can fully receive what your heart desires.


  1. Recognize negative thought patterns as soon as they occur.  These are the thoughts that tell you, “what if it doesn’t work out?” or “what if I fail?”.  Once you recognize these thought patterns reframe these thoughts into a positive perspective.  For example, start asking yourself, “what if this does work out and I am perfectly happy? Or “I am going to really enjoy all this money that I am getting”.  The idea is to think in a positive affirming mindset versus a negative mindset.
  2. Surrender to you own joy and happiness.  So many times, when I tell women they need to surrender they think that I mean in terms of “quitting” or “giving up”.  I what I really mean is surrendering to trying to control every aspect of a situation and allowing the happiness to flow without doubt. 
  3. Give gratitude for what is working out for you and all that you have.  I tell my clients to journal about the good things that are coming into their lives.  It is very important to take note of all the experiences that are working out and give thanks for what is going really well.  It not only allows more positivity to flow into your life, but it also is a way to naturally feel good about your life.

The concept of “allowing” takes practice but once you start, trust me it will be as natural as breathing air.

If you are a woman who knows that you have struggled to create or allow the joy, peace and happiness that you want in your life, then let’s chat.  I love helping women get clear on their goals, dreams, desires and creating a strategy to allow it all to flow easily into their lives. 

I offer a free coaching strategy session in which we discuss your challenges and steps to move you forward.  Click here to choose a date on my calendar that works for you: http://bit.ly/TiffinyCalendar

XOXO Tiffiny

About the Author

Tiffiny has a B.A. in Psychology, and master’s degree in Public Health Education. She worked in consulting for over 16 years, as well as previously owning a fitness and health business. In her personal life, she used personal development, mindset and health strategies to go from being overworked in a demanding corporate career, emotionally drained in a toxic marriage, physically unhealthy, and depressed to becoming an award-winning figure level bodybuilding athlete and entrepreneur. As a women’s empowerment coach, she works to help women get clear on their goals, build confidence, increase self-esteem, take action on their deep desires and create a life they love

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