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Have you ever heard the saying, “good girls finish last”? Well, let’s just say that I spent all of my childhood, adolescents, 20’s, and some of my 30’s finishing last!
Yes, I was a self-proclaimed, “good girl.” I treated everyone the way I wanted to be treated- with kindness, respect, attention, compassion, and understanding. However, that behavior wasn’t reciprocated to me.
It took me a long time to understand why I seemed to attract the most disrespectful, mean, cold-hearted, psychologically abusive, bullying types of people into my life.
After many years of heartbreak, I finally realized that the number one reason was I put my heart and soul into the wrong people. I treated every person the same by giving everyone the same amount of love, time, and attention.
As a former, “good girl”, I am here to tell you, everyone does not deserve your love, time, or your attention. Being “good” is not equivalent to being wise and understanding how to gain respect and kindness from others.
I had to learn the importance of discernment when it came to allowing certain people in my life and understanding how to confront bullies, whether they were friends or close relatives.
I realized that the main person I needed to pour my heart and soul into was myself. Loving yourself, being kind to yourself, and being respectful to your own needs gives you perspective on how you should be treated by others.
This was the lesson that I had to learn. Once I finally understood that concept, I took off my “good girl” hat and put on my “confident woman” hat.
When I started focusing on building my confidence and belief in my worthiness, everything changed. I stopped attracting narcissistic, mean people and attracted kind-hearted, giving, intelligent, and respectful individuals.
Confidence is not something that we are all born with. It is a skill that takes practice to learn. However, once you have it and are consistent in your practice, it will serve you better than any attribute you possess.
You now know why good girls finish last. It’s an unfortunate reality of the world we live in that good girls get mistreated. If you want to excel and attract people that will treat you with respect, your only option is to become more confident. As you become more confident, you’ll settle for less and attract people worth attracting.
Ready to start the process of gaining more clarity, confidence, and courage? I have created 3 simple steps to help you on your journey.
Don’t let more time pass by, reclaim your life today!
Tiffiny has a B.A. in Psychology, and master’s degree in Public Health Education. She worked in consulting for over 16 years, as well as previously owning a fitness and health business. In her personal life, she used personal development, mindset and health strategies to go from being overworked in a demanding corporate career, emotionally drained in a toxic marriage, physically unhealthy, and depressed to becoming an award-winning figure level bodybuilding athlete and entrepreneur. As a women’s empowerment coach, she works to help women get clear on their goals, build confidence, increase self-esteem, take action on their deep desires and create a life they love